25 August 2017

Frequently Asked Questions

Don't worry, I haven't cut my hair. I just came across this photo, which was taken at the end of 2015, and I'm kind of digging it. It really sums up my goofball nature that Alex loves so much. Haha! Anyways, I thought it would be fun to do a little Q&A. So I've compiled a list of some of the questions I've been asked on Instagram, in comments or via email. It's always nice to have the answers in one place too. You can also learn more stuff about me here and here. Alright, let's get to the damn Q&A!

How long have you known Alex?
Wow, okay. I've known Alex for a long time. We actually dated when we were teenagers! We've known each other for almost twenty years. But after we broke up when we were younger, we lost touch for awhile. Okay, so maybe we technically haven't really known each other that long. But still.

How did you and Alex meet? How long have you been together?
Alex & I initially met through his sister. She and I were friends in middle school and she introduced me to her older brother. I was pretty smitten and Alex & I ended up dating. Neither one of us can remember why we eventually broke up, or for how long we dated that first time. However, when we re-met downtown in 2015 our lives changed forever. We picked up right where we left off (over seventeen years earlier) and we've been inseparable since. I should probably do I post about this, huh?

Didn't you have another blog before this one?
I did. It's name was Porcelain Heart, Ivory Tooth. A long, winded name of a blog filled with memories that are better suited in the past. It's now a private blog. 

Why did you create this blog and close down your other one?
When I created this blog I was in a transitional phase in my life, the relationship I was in was disintegrating. I felt like I needed to start new, realign myself and move forward. I wanted to make a space where I could grow and not be tethered to the past.

How did you come up with the blog name Unspoken Spells?
The name of my blog actually comes from a line in a poem I wrote a few years ago. It's a simple combination of words that have always stuck with me. Besides, I think it sounds cool.

Is owning a rabbit hard?
I mean, it's not as easy as everyone thinks. You can't just put a rabbit in a cage, or in your backyard, and leave them there. If you're thinking about getting a little bunny you can head over here for some tips. Keep in mind that owning a rabbit means you might just have a cute little bun for up to 14 years. It's a long-term, but adorable commitment.

What breed is your rabbit?
Olive is definitely a mix. The owner at the rescue shelter thinks she might be a mix of an English Spot and a Netherland Dwarf. Olive's weight and size is a pretty perfect match between the two breeds. She weighs around 4 1/2 pounds.

You post a lot of photos, do you have any formal training?
I wouldn't use the term "formal", because I didn't go to college for photography. However, I had photography classes for four years, while in high school. I even know how to develop my own film - man, I miss the darkroom! Since I was taught photography on a manual camera, I really feel as though it helped me hone my artistic eye. Seriously, it's a lot harder to take photos on a manual camera, compared to a digital one. There's a lot more finesse and patience that goes into. Also, if you like my photos be sure to check out my series Through the Lens - it's where I share my photography.

Who designed your blog? 
I actually created it - thanks to the simple theme in Blogger! Now for a little backstory - the summer before high school I taught myself HTML and have been creating websites of my own ever since. I just use the Blogger platform, because it's a lot easier and I don't have all the time in the world to mess around with full HTML.

Do you two own a house yet?
Not yet. We're actually still renting and saving for a down payment on a house. Both of us know what we want in terms of a house and neither one of us want to settle on something we don't love. Even if that means waiting five more years to find the perfect house. Mainly because that house will be our "forever home". We aren't lacking in space now though - our apartment is a two bed, two bath. We just can't stand our upstairs neighbors. They're so loud!

Do you have any tattoos? And how many? Do you want more?
Yes I do. I don't have too many. Alex has more - he has a full sleeve. I have four tattoos. And yes, I do want more. In fact I have so many ideas of what I want, but I can't decide on a location for any of them. At some point, Alex & I want to get a joint tattoo.

You used to not want kids, do you want any now?
Alex & I both didn't want kids. In fact we started the relationship with that flat out on the table. No kids, ever. But it's funny how time changes things and how the right person can make all the difference. You can read what I had to say about it here.

Will you ever share your poetry and short stories here? You used to on your old blog.
I share a lot of my creative writing on this blog (which you can see here - but it's really all dedicated to Alex). I've shared like one poem on this blog. As for my old poetry, it's pretty depressing stuff. But I really would like to share more. However, I need to look into the copyright laws. I'm terrified that someone will steal my stuff - not that is spectacular or anything - but it's mine nonetheless. If you like writing too, be sure to checkout out My Writing Bag Essentials post.

Do you and Alex want kids? From what I remember you used to not want children.
If you’ve been following my journey since my first blog, you know that in the beginning, I was childless by choice. The funny thing about life is that sometimes the journey can change your mind. Since Alex & I started dating we couldn't imagine NOT adding a little one to the mix. And low and behold, Alex & I will be welcoming our first human child at the end of March 2019.

If there's anything you'd like to ask me, let me know in the comments below! Just make sure to check the "notify me" box so you can get alerted when I reply back. I hope you all have a lovely weekend! I'll be back to the blogging game come Monday.


  1. Wishing you a wonderful weekend too!! It was great seeing you on Friday!! xoxox

    1. Thanks, Terri! I hope you had a great one!
      It was really nice seeing you as well. :) <3